Teaching on Marriage – the Marriage of Barnaby and Bernadette (Bear)

This is the outline of the session for KS1 aged children (Infants Year R,1 & 2)

  • We gather the Children in Church
  • Important things:
    • Many people mark important events in their lives by coming to Church
      • The birth of a baby – baptism
      • The passing of a loved one – funeral
      • The love of one person for another – a marriage
    • It’s more than just a day to dress up pretty and have a party
    • It begins something more important: two people sharing their lives together and making important promises to each other
    • The wedding day enables us to mark this beginning and to pray that the couple enjoy a life-long loving time together
  • Places everyone!
    • Sides of the Church – where the congregation sit
    • Groom and Best Man
    • Bride outside
  • Text:

In the name of the +Father and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen

God is love, and those who live in love live in God
and God lives in them. 1 John 4.16

God of wonder and of joy:
grace comes from you,
and you alone are the source of life and love.
Without you, we cannot please you;
without your love, our deeds are worth nothing.
Send your Holy Spirit,
and pour into our hearts that most excellent gift of love,
that we may worship you now
with thankful hearts
and serve you always with willing minds;
through Jesus Christ our Lord.

In the presence of God, Father, Son and Holy Spirit,
we have come together
to witness the marriage of Barnaby and Bernadette,
to pray for God’s blessing on them,
to share their joy
and to celebrate their love.

Barnaby and Bernadette are now to enter this way of life.
They will each give their consent to the other
and make solemn vows,
and in token of this they will [each give and receive a ring.
We pray with them that the Holy Spirit will guide and strengthen them,
that they may fulfil God’s purposes
for the whole of their earthly life together.

Barnaby will you take Bernadette to be your wife?
Will you love her, comfort her, honour and protect her,
and, forsaking all others,
be faithful to her as long as you both shall live?

He will probably whisper in the ear of Fr Simon like Sweep used to do

Bernadette, will you take Barnaby to be your husband?
Will you love him, comfort him, honour and protect him,
and, forsaking all others,
be faithful to him as long as you both shall live?

She will probably whisper in the ear of Fr Simon like Sweep used to do

The Priest says to the congregation

Will you, the families and friends of Barnaby and Bernadette,
support and uphold them in their marriage
now and in the years to come?
We will!

These are the promises they make to each other:

I take you,
to be my bear,
to have and to hold
from this day forward;
for better, for worse,
for richer, for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
to love and to cherish,
till death us do part;
according to God’s holy law.
In the presence of God I make this vow.

Heavenly Father, by your blessing
let these rings be to Barnby and Bernadette
a symbol of unending love and faithfulness,
to remind them of the vow and covenant
which they have made this day
through Jesus Christ our Lord.

The Priest addresses the people

In the presence of God, and before this congregation,
Barnby and Bernadette have given their consent
and made their marriage vows to each other.
They have declared their marriage by the joining of hands
and by the giving and receiving of rings.
I therefore proclaim that they are husband and wife.

The Priest joins their right hands together and says

Those whom God has joined together let no one put asunder.

The Priest says to the couple

God the Father,
God the Son,
God the Holy Spirit,
bless, preserve and keep you;
the Lord mercifully grant you the riches of his grace,
that you may please him both in body and soul,
and, living together in faith and love,
may receive the blessings of eternal life.

The prayers conclude with the Lord’s Prayer.

As our Saviour taught us, so we pray

Our Father, who art in heaven,
hallowed be thy name;
thy kingdom come;
thy will be done;
on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation;
but deliver us from evil.
For thine is the kingdom,
the power and the glory,
for ever and ever.

The Priest says

Barnby and Bernadette,
May God the Holy Trinity make you strong in faith and love,
defend you on every side, and guide you in truth and peace;
and the blessing of God almighty,
the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit,
be among you and remain with you always.

Ladies and Gentlemen, I present to you the new Mr and Mrs Bear

  • Pictures outside as per tradition